Everybody on this journey through life notices that there aren’t only easy days when everything is rosy, but there are also the more difficult ones. As uncomfortable and stressful the challenging times may be, they are really vital to our evolution because they enable us to grow and change the most.

There were a few situations recently that made me question my own instincts towards another person. I listened to what others were saying and wondered whether I had made the right decision. It wasn’t a long debate with myself by any means as I knew that I had listened to my heart when deciding to trust that person and very soon my Truth confirmed that by saying these words to me: “Always see the good in people”.

At the end of one of my recent meditations I heard these words: “Let yourself be loved”. I realised in that moment that these words weren’t just meant for me, but also for so many of us who struggle with opening our hearts and letting love in.

It is funny how in my last blog post I wrote about loving oneself first and foremost, following the path of least resistance, of most allowing and then a few days ago I had a big meltdown. I react, have better and worse days, just like everybody else, but what normally takes me a few seconds or minutes to get over, this time lasted for a few hours. I do not remember the last time I thought or felt that way. My ego had a blast, I could hear thoughts based on some limiting beliefs and old programs and this time unlike in the past, I let myself be swept away by self-pity, victimhood, anxiety, frustration, basically feeling like the whole world was against me. It was totally absurd, but in that moment, I have had enough.

There have been many times in the last 10 months when I heard my Truth tell me to love myself first and foremost and I still remember the day in March last year when I heard it being said in this way for the first time.

I am definitely not the same person who left for Dr Joe Dispenza’s first ever 10 day long retreat in Cancun just a little over two weeks ago. It wasn’t my first retreat, but it was one that changed me the most. Every day was intense in the most wonderful way, every meditation, every coherence healing brought new, unexpected and exciting experiences. Many times during the retreat I thought to myself “This is my best ever meditation”, only to be taken to new highs during the next one.

Not that long ago I was lying in bed thinking whether I had any expectations towards another person in a relationship. I was relieved, happy and actually proud of myself, when there were none (I will explain in a minute why I used the word “proud”). The only thing that I heard was “Honest and true to who they really are”.

For a long time my goal has been to become more love, to see love in everything and everybody, basically the opposite of what is encouraged in the world right now. First it started with a quest, with a yearning to find unconditional love and once I finally found it in me, all I wanted was to experience greater and greater levels of love and to become more of it.

Far too often we behave in a way other people want us to behave or in a way we think they would like us to behave. We try to please others, be who they want us to be in an effort to be accepted and liked. We want other people to think highly of us, we do not want to disappoint anybody and we do not want to be different. We want to belong.

Everybody has better and worse days, everyone experiences times when they feel like they could move mountains and times when they feel tired or overwhelmed. It is completely normal and yet, when we decide to change, when we work on overcoming ourselves and becoming somebody new, we can sometimes become disheartened when we make a mistake, when we notice familiar, unwanted thoughts, feelings and behaviours to appear more often than they normally would. What is more, when your priority is your happiness, when you work on becoming the best version of yourself, when you are really passionate and dedicated and you want to add more love and light to the world, it can be far too easy for you to assume that you should never react, that you shouldn’t have bad days, that you should always be joyful, loving, kind, patient and understanding. That kind of thinking is not only wrong and unhelpful but also not loving to yourself and might lead to thoughts of judgment and self-doubt, questioning yourself, your dedication, your conviction and to feelings of guilt, unworthiness and failure.

Time and time again I find the feeling of unworthiness one of the greatest (if not the greatest) obstacles that we set ourselves preventing us from living our lives to the full, being happy, feeling free, basically being who we truly long to be. I do not just base it on hearing other people’s stories, but also on my own personal struggles with feeling worthy.

When we experience problems, when somebody lets us down, when our hearts are broken, we feel hurt. How we respond, what we do afterwards varies greatly and has an impact on our future lives and on our happiness. Some people vouch never to experience anything so painful again, they build protective barriers around them, withdraw from social life and prefer to be alone. There are others who go straight into new relationships without learning any lessons from a previous one, only to find similar patterns and challenges repeating themselves. Some take time to look carefully at what happened, they look at the mistakes made, learn lessons and decide to change, to think, feel and act differently in the future. Their hearts are open, they love themselves and they trust in love.

There were many times when I tried to recall when and how I first heard about Dr Joe Dispenza, but to no avail. It feels like he has always been in my life. The first time I saw Dr Joe live was in 2014 at Hay House “I Can Do It” weekend conference. Dr Joe was the main reason why I took part in it. There were many wonderful speakers at the event, however, already back then Dr Joe’s lecture differed, it was special. I remember looking at the room and everyone was silent, everybody paid attention to Dr Joe’s every word. We might not have realised it completely back then, but on some level we could feel Dr Joe’s deep connection to the Truth and to us all, his heart, love, sincerity, care, dedication and passion.

We have been really lucky to have some amazing speakers in Manchester just this month like Bruce Lipton and Deepak Chopra and in November we are going to be visited by the amazing Anita Moorjani.

The word selfish has got a lot of negative connotations attached to it. A lot of us are taught that it is bad to be selfish, that it is important to make other people happy, that we should always put others first and mostly care about what they think and say. Religion practiced in my country when I was growing up certainly encouraged all of the above and made us feel guilty for any selfish thoughts or deeds. However, is it really bad to be selfish? What does it really mean to be selfish?

A lot of us think that we have to be perfect. We set very high standards for ourselves and other people and are disappointed when they are not met. We believe that we need to be perfect partners, perfect parents, we need to look great, be intelligent and have a great career, lots of money and success. When we do something, we often think it is not enough, that we are not enough.

If I told you that you hold a secret to happiness in your heart, that you are a powerful being and it is you who decides what your life is like, I am sure that quite a few people would get annoyed and would tell me to get lost.

On the 21st of April 2024 was the third global Walk for the World organised by Dr Joe Dispenza and his team. Every walking meditation that we do is extraordinary and creates powerful experiences.